We all have our story as to why we can't or shouldn't. Our stories are so strongly developed that we don't even notice them and how they can hold us back from our full potential. The good stories we create will propel us forward.  The bad ones are just excuses. They may sound like this, "when I {fill in the blank}, I will {fill in the blank} or words such as   'because", 'due to", "that's how I roll".

So if we don't notice this pattern who will? A professional coach or mentor is my favourite choice. They are not attached to your outcome emotionally. They help you to discover it on your own and guide you to your next steps.   Choose a coach or mentor who is where you want to be, not where you are at. Have them stretch you.

A spouse or close friend may be able to help a bit, but they are emotionally attached. They are most likely on your same playing field too. They may have the same stories as you (the old adage, of like attracts like) You want somebody who can stretch you. 

I was caught in one of my 'stories' just the other day. I am making plans to move part-time to a Spanish speaking city.  While visiting the city in preparation, my husband suggests I start learning the language during the trip.  My response,  "When I get here, I will learn". He replies, "You are here now."  Busted! Thankfully I have the skills and tools to change the thought pattern. It's great to have someone call you out on your story. It is even better when they can guide you and assist you with accountability. As mentioned, a spouse, friend or colleague most likely will not take you to the next steps. A mentor, consultant or coach will.

Get called out on your story! You will feel liberated knowing what to do next which will move you onward and upward. You will learn the skills and have the tools in your kit.  I would love to help or refer you to the best suitable coach or mentor.
To your success,
Floydilou